The Energetics of Closure: Why You Still Feel Tied to Someone Who’s Gone

You stopped talking.

They stopped calling.

Maybe it ended abruptly, maybe it dragged on for years—but either way, it’s over.

So why do they still live in your body?

Why does a part of you still wait for a message, a sign, a moment of recognition… long after the relationship has dissolved?

This is where closure becomes more than just a conversation. It becomes energy work.

Because some stories end physically—but energetically, they linger like smoke in your lungs.

🕯 What Is Closure, Really?

Most people think closure means one final talk.

A clean explanation.

A mutual understanding.

An apology that rights the wrong.

But in truth, closure is not always about what you get.

It’s about what you give yourself.

It’s the internal peace that says:

“Even if I never hear from you again, I accept the ending. I accept the lesson. I release the weight.”

And here’s the hardest part:

Sometimes, closure isn’t given. It must be created.

🩶 My Story With Closure

I’ve been there more than once.

With Adam, it was the longing—the softness of love that still lingered long after we went our separate ways. We weren’t angry, we just… faded. But that didn’t stop me from wondering if he still thought about me, if the connection we had was truly done, or if he carried echoes of me like I did of him.

With Jupiter, it was chaos. We had the conversations. We had the apologies.

But no amount of talking healed the betrayal, the wounds, or the parts of me that shrank to accommodate his inconsistencies. He proposed on the same day I found out the truth—and even that didn’t grant me peace. Because closure doesn’t come from what someone says. It comes from the moment you no longer need them to say anything at all.

The moment I finally felt peace?

Wasn’t when he said sorry, his ego and pride wouldn’t allow him to…

It was when I stopped hoping he ever would.

🔄 Why Energy Doesn’t Always Move On With the Body

Here’s the spiritual truth:

When someone impacts you deeply, especially if there was:

Sexual or emotional vulnerability

A karmic tie or past life connection

A breaking of trust or betrayal

A lack of understanding or abandonment

…that bond becomes an energetic imprint.

Your aura remembers what your logic is trying to forget.

So even if you delete the messages, block the number, and move on physically—your energy might still be running the old program.

That’s why certain people pop into your dreams.

That’s why your chest tightens when you see someone who looks like them.

That’s why your spirit still wants answers, even when your ego says, “I don’t care.”

💭 What We Secretly Crave From Closure

It’s not always the apology.

Sometimes it’s the acknowledgement.

We want them to admit:

“Yes, I hurt you.” “Yes, you were enough.” “Yes, what we shared was real.”

But not everyone is capable of offering that.

Sometimes they’re too proud.

Sometimes they’re still in denial.

Sometimes… they know, but their silence is easier than their accountability.

And sometimes, they simply don’t understand the depth of your soul.

🔮 So How Do You Actually Get Closure?

You create it. Through:

Radical honesty with yourself: What did this connection show me about my needs, patterns, and growth?

Ritual or energetic integration (journaling, tarot, cord work)

Letting go of the fantasy version of the person you hoped they would become

Replacing the story: instead of, “They abandoned me,” say, “I learned how to stand without them.”

This doesn’t happen overnight. It’s not linear.

You may feel fine for weeks, then cry over a memory you thought you buried.

But that doesn’t mean you’re failing.

It means you’re healing in layers.

📿 A Closure Practice for Your Soul

Write a letter to the person you feel bound to. Don’t hold back. Say everything. Read it aloud once. Just once. Then burn it (safely) or bury it.

Pull a tarot card asking: What is my soul learning through this separation? Sit with the message. Let it become your new truth.

Close by saying: I call all my energy back to me. I sever this story from my spirit. I release you with love, and I reclaim my peace.

🪞 Final Reflection

Closure doesn’t mean you stop loving them.

It means you stop waiting for them to love you the way you deserved.

It’s not forgetting.

It’s remembering—without pain.

Some souls arrive to change you, not stay with you.

Some stories must end so you can become the version of yourself who no longer settles for less than full presence, truth, and devotion.

If you’re still haunted by someone who’s long gone…

You’re not broken.

You’re just ready to complete the cycle.

Let’s do it together.

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