The Myth of Being Healed: Why Healing Is Not a Final Destination

You don’t graduate from your pain—you learn how to live beside it.

There’s this unspoken pressure in the spiritual community—

To “arrive.”

To be fully healed.

To become this glowing, ever-graceful version of yourself who never flinches, never spirals, never gets triggered.

But that version? She doesn’t exist… and chasing her will burn you out.

Healing is not a final state. It’s not a title you earn.

It’s a constant unfolding.

A return.

A relationship with your own tenderness that deepens with time.

🕯 Where the Myth Begins

Social media made healing look… glamorous. Aesthetic journaling sessions. Rose quartz baths. “Just raise your vibration.”

And while those rituals can be sacred, the myth began when we started believing healing meant you’re never meant to hurt again.

But here’s what healing actually looks like:

Crying over something you thought you were over

Getting triggered and catching yourself in the middle of the spiral

Setting a boundary, then grieving the space it creates

Going back to old patterns—not because you failed, but because you’re human

Choosing yourself again, even when it feels unnatural

Having days where you feel broken all over again—and still showing up with softness

Healing isn’t a straight line. It’s a spiral staircase. You’ll pass the same floors again. But each time, you’ll carry more awareness, more tools, more self-compassion.

🧠 How This Myth Nearly Burned Me Out

There was a time I thought I had “healed” everything.

I had walked away from karmic love.

I had found my voice.

I had reclaimed my body, my rituals, my space.

But then came the unexpected spiral:

I cried over memories I thought I had buried, my body flared with eczema again, my skin broke out, my sleep disappeared, I felt shame creep in—wasn’t I past this?

The truth was, I wasn’t broken.

I was being invited back into deeper layers of myself.

Because healing never ends—it evolves.

It asks new things of you as you become someone you’ve never been before.

🪞You Are Not Failing Because You Still Feel

Let me say this clearly:

You are not failing because you had a bad week. You are not regressing because you still think about them. You are not broken because your body reacts when your soul is overwhelmed.

You are alive and healing happens in motion—not in stillness.

🔁 Healing Is a Practice, Not a Performance

Real healing looks like:

Cancelling plans to be with your body

Admitting you’re not okay, even when others expect strength

Changing your mind because your intuition shifts

Outgrowing things you once begged for

Crying without assigning blame

Softening, without crumbling

You don’t need to be perfect to be whole. You don’t need to be graceful to be sacred. Sometimes, the most healed thing you can do is let yourself be messy.

✍️ A Personal Reflection

I once thought I had to be “healed enough” to hold space for others.

That I had to be clear of shame before I could speak about pain.

That I had to have closure before I could help others find it.

But then I realized…

The people who find me, book with me, stay connected to me—

They don’t come because I’m “done.”

They come because I’m honest.

Because I’ve lived it, and I’m still living it… and I’m willing to meet them where they are without pretending I’ve outgrown the feelings they still carry.

That’s the difference between the performative spiritualist and the embodied one.

💌 Final Words to You

Healing isn’t about never feeling pain again.

It’s about not abandoning yourself when the pain returns.

It’s about choosing not to shame your human experience.

You don’t need to reach a finish line.

You just need to keep reaching inward.

And every time you do, you are healing.

You are becoming.

You are already enough.

🔮 Feeling Stuck in the Spiral?

If you’re feeling behind, overwhelmed, or uncertain about your healing path—let’s talk. Tarot can help you:

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✏️ For Your Reflection:

What version of yourself are you still trying to become—because you think that’s who healing should make you?

Would you love her more if she were simply you, as you are right now?