The Fetishization of Witchcraft, Venus Energy & the ‘Soft Girl’ Aesthetic

Witchcraft is not an aesthetic, Venus energy is not a flirt and softness? It’s not submission, weakness, or a pretty little prop for your social media persona.

We need to talk about what’s really happening when spirituality gets filtered, watered down and sold back to us in rose quartz bundles, faux femininity and flower baths with no substance.

This post is not an attack on softness. It’s a reclamation.

This is about how softness became performance—and how sacred energy is being reduced to branding.

Let’s talk about it.

🌸 When Spirituality Becomes a Costume

There’s been a rise in recent years of what I like to call “cosmetic witchcraft” and I get it—it’s beautiful. The candlelit baths. The silk robes. The journaling with rose petals. The curated altars and waist-length curls. The divine feminine playlists. The aura filters.

But for many, it’s just that.

A costume.

There’s no bone-deep embodiment, no initiation through pain, no understanding of the forces you’re calling in. Just aesthetic mimicry for clicks, clout and content.

That’s dangerous—not only to others, but to yourself.

Because when you call yourself a witch, a High Priestess, or a siren of Venus… but have no understanding of the shadow that comes with that power, you’re playing dress-up with energy that’s very real.

🔮 Witchcraft Is Not Just Lavender & Light

Witchcraft—true witchcraft—is not soft by default. It’s ancestral. It’s primal. It’s about bloodlines, elements, protection, boundary, reclamation. It’s rooted in both grace and wrath and as someone who’s done spellwork from a place of genuine heartbreak, who’s sat at my altar sobbing over ancestral burdens, who’s screamed invocations not to manifest a man, but to sever energetic cords and release what was rotting me from the inside—I can tell you this:

Real magic? It doesn’t care how cute your mood board is.It responds to clarity, to truth, to respect for the unseen.

💄 Venus Energy Is Not a Pick-Me Pose

Venus is not a #softgirl.

She is not your passive, bashful, whispery aesthetic.

Venus is a planet of war in certain cultures. A siren. A seductress. A woman who can burn down cities with her charm and make men cry at her feet.

She rules beauty, yes. But she also rules self-worth. She governs relationships, yes. But also boundaries. She can attract—but she can also repel - with intention and when we flatten her into a personality filter, we do her—and ourselves—a disservice.

When I finally stepped into my own Venusian power, it wasn’t because I wore lace or mastered the art of being “soft-spoken.”

It was when I stopped explaining myself to men who couldn’t hold me, stopped shrinking my shine and reclaimed my sensuality not as bait, but as birthright.

🧠 The Soft Girl Aesthetic as a Trauma Response

Here’s where things get real:

For many, the “soft girl” aesthetic is a mask, a trauma response, a survival mechanism, a way to appear lovable, palatable, safe.

We lean into it because it keeps us from being labelled “difficult.” Because the world doesn’t know what to do with powerful women who won’t play nice.

But let me ask you this:

What’s the cost of packaging your spirit into something sweet and small just to be loved? Furthermore, how much of that softness is real—and how much of it is repression?

For years, I played the role. The poised, agreeable girl. The girl who made herself easy to digest. Who didn’t raise her voice. Who made sure everyone else was okay, even when I was falling apart inside.

But I’m not here to be digestible. I’m here to be truthful.

And I realized: real softness is not performance. It’s what happens when you feel safe in your power.

🕯️ Returning to Embodiment, Not Performance

You want to be soft? Be soft because you are soft—not because you were told that’s how divine femininity should look.

You want to work with Venus? Beautiful. But first ask:

Do you respect yourself?

Do you uphold your worth?

Do you know your value without needing validation?

You want to call yourself a witch? Then study. Initiate. Learn the sacred. Respect the dead. Know what you’re invoking. And when it’s time to banish, protect, or walk away—do it.

Spirituality is not an aesthetic.

It’s a lifestyle, a responsibility and sometimes, a burden.

But it’s also the most honest mirror you’ll ever look into.

💌 The Call Is to Reclaim, Not Repackage

You don’t have to be loud to be powerful. But if you’re being quiet out of fear—then that’s not softness, that’s suppression.

You don’t have to wear all black and burn herbs to be a witch. But if you’re doing it for show—energy knows.

You don’t have to reject the soft girl aesthetic. But if it’s rooted in approval-seeking rather than truth? Reevaluate.

Your power is not in how you present. It’s in how you live.In how you speak. In how you choose yourself when no one is watching.

🔮 Ready to Deepen Beyond the Aesthetic?

If you’ve been craving more than vibes and visuals—if you’re ready to go deeper into your spiritual truth—book a tarot session with me.

Let’s uncover the energies that are actually moving beneath your surface.

Let’s speak to your soul—not your social persona.

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Be soft if that’s who you are but don’t forget—you’re also sacred fire.